Tips on how to use this sex toy in partnered sex, by Emma London

How to Make the Best of the Magic Wand Vibrator During Sex

Tips on how to use this sex toy in partnered sex


The sex toys world is an incredible, varied one. You can find all sorts of sex complements; in different shapes, materials and purposes.

You have sex toys made specifically for vaginal, penile or anal play; to caress your partner with soft sensations or to induce pleasure-pain. You have vibrating and non-vibrating ones, and toys to stimulate the clitoris, the G-spot, the prostate or the nipples.

I have a big sex toys collection and, even so, my wishlist is massive. The offer is irresistible, how can I not want to try it all?

I hope I’ll never be put in the position of having to choose a favourite sex toy. If someone asks me (the unfair) question “if you can only choose one, what would it be?”, I think I’d choose the magic wand vibrator. Not only for the fun and pleasure I have with it, but mostly because of the spectacular orgasms I get with it. Also, because it satisfies me and my partner simultaneously — not many sex toys have this superpower.

The magic wand vibrator can be used during masturbation or partnered sex, pleasuring both alternatively or at the same time. It’s a versatile and very competent little thing. Well, not so little, but that’s part of its charm.

Magic wand vibrator

Nowadays, you can find a big offer on wands: you have them with or without cord, and in several sizes.

In our collection, my partner and I have two: a big one with a cord (an original magic wand), and one smaller, cordless. The first is more potent, but has the inconvenience of the cord — we can’t move around so freely. The smaller isn’t so strong but has the advantage of the handle also being vibrating, which makes it perfect for couple play.

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(On top, the wand with the cord. At the bottom, the cordless, fully vibrating.)

The wands have settings, where you can choose the intensity and the patterns of the vibration. I’ll be honest, I always use the same setting.

What makes this sex toy so wonderful it’s the girth head. Besides stimulating the clit, it pressures and stimulates the labia, which for me, it’s essential. I rarely orgasm only with penetration or clitoral stimulation: I go crazy-horny with labia pleasuring.

Another thing that makes the magic wand so perfect it’s the anatomy of the toy: it’s easy to handle and because of its size, you don’t have to manoeuvre much to stimulate your genitals.

Masturbating with the magic wand

My partner loves to masturbate using the magic wand. The first time we had phone sex, he told me he had the wand on his balls while masturbating. That made me so horny!

I use the magic wand during masturbation, a lot. It’s usually my go-to sex toy. I’m also in love with my rabbit vibrator, but the wand seems to have gained a special place in my heart (vulva?).

The best positions to use the magic wand in partnered sex

The wonders of this sex toy is that you can use it pretty much in any position. But if you want to share the pleasure with your partner, there are positions that will allow it.

Doggy Style

This is my favourite sex position to use the magic wand with my partner. I always get spectacular orgasms and I get to offer him extra stimulation.

For this position, I prefer to use the smaller wand. I use the head to stimulate my clit and the handle to stimulate my partner.

While we’re fucking in this position, I play around with our sensations: I stimulate only my clit, only his balls, and both of us, at the same time.

Another incredible way to satisfy us simultaneously is to press the head of the wand on my labia. Not only I’m pleasuring myself, but my partner receives the vibration of the wand on the bottom of his shaft. We absolutely love it!

Scissor position

This is one of the best sex positions for me (I explained why, in this piece.) Scissoring is also a perfect way to satisfy both partners with the magic wand.

Being side by side, with the legs intertwined, will allow you both to reach the wand and its delicious vibration.

Like with the doggy style, you can stimulate different spots of your genitalia easily, at the same time you do it to your partner. The big spoon can spread their legs to have fully (open) access to their sweet spots.

The magic wand might be a big instrument, but the benefits that come from its size compensates any nose twitch about the size!

Missionary position

Despite many people use the magic wand while on the missionary position, I rarely do. Even using my smaller wand, I don’t find it very comfortable; it hurts my pubic bone.

The best way to use the wand during missionary is to place the sex toy between your genitalia and the person on the top to support their body weight on their arms (and not on their elbows), to give some distance between you.

In this position, you don’t have to hold the wand, but by doing it so, you will better control where it hits.

Oral sex

Most of the times, I prefer my partner to go down on me without sex toys. His tongue, lips and fingers are enough to give me all the pleasure I need. But sometimes, he invites the wand to the play.

The way I prefer to receive cunnilingus with a magic wand is for him to dedicate his oral devotion to my labia while fingering me and stimulating my clit with the toy. I have a blended double (or triple!) orgasm guaranteed.

When it’s me going down on him, I use the wand all over his genitalia. He loves to receive the vibration in his balls, on his shaft and perineum. And receiving it while I’m sucking and licking him, it’s incredibly pleasuring.

Whilst the magic wand vibrator might not be the most beautiful of the sex toys (I love to appreciate the beauty of sex toys), it is, undoubtedly, a complete and oh-so-very satisfying one.

You can use the wand to masturbate or during partnered sex. And the best thing about it, is that it can be used by vulva and penis owners and be explored in partnered sex, independently of its dynamic — same-sex or not.

Its versatility is so immense that you can use it while holding it with one hand or hands-free.

For me, the magic wand vibrator is a perfect sex toy.


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